Editor's Corner FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 06/03/11 Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks LOOK FOR BARB'S BLOG -- A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com Take the next step in your speaking life by registering for our next “How to Overcome Stress in Public Speaking” 3- day workshop. Don't put it off. WHEN: October 26, 27, 28, 2011 (See details below.) Have you missed issues of the newsletter? They're archived on our website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com. In this issue: High Anxiety First person Difficult Audiences? Quotes can make it lively Take a look at our resource list Attend another workshop for half price October Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars High Anxiety If you're anxious about speaking, you can get over it. (Here's the link to my recent blog on that subject: http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/feeling-anxious-in-front-of-a-crowd.) I used to be anxious in front of a group. It was unnerving. I didn't like feeling out of control-not knowing if I said the right thing or really just not being sure what had just happened. I understand how it feels and I know it can be fixed. Having gotten past it, I'm pretty clear on the solution. It's really about caring more about helping the audience than worrying about what's going to happen to you. If you're nervous, you're probably thinking about yourself. The audience doesn't care about you, they just want some information and they'd like you to not make them feel uncomfortable. When you think about yourself - wonder if you're doing a good job, worry about the outcome, worry about making a fool of yourself - you're not going to have a great presentation and you're likely to make them uncomfortable. Getting over yourself is the answer. It's good for you. It's good for the audience. A little practice every day will do the trick. FIRST PERSON Nicole C. Wood, Communications Coordinator, Belize Natural Energy Ltd.: “Thank you for all the instruction and insight you provided in our recent class. “I returned home with new skills and renewed energy, which is a good thing because my Manager sprung a presentation on me this morning (to 39 college students). “I didn't have time to prepare, but I did a quick impromptu mental organization of the information, and everyone seemed to enjoy the session. And, I felt good about it.” Difficult Audiences I'm tired of the people who just wait for the Q & A session to attack and push their point of view. Any ideas? If they're the same people every time, you might try talking to them ahead of time to let them know you're interested in their thinking on the subject. If they have a better nature, you might also try appealing to it in the interests of getting out of the meeting on time-or anything else you think might sway them. It's also helpful when you're organizing your thoughts to try to ward off the attacks by covering their material in your speech. If they're waiting for a chance to be heard, you can soften the impact and connect with them by describing their position in such a way that they can tell you've been paying attention to them. If you connect with them during your presentation, it should considerably soften their need to attack. Quotes to Make You a Better Speaker “Many ideas grow better when transplanted into another mind, than in the one where they sprung up.” - Oliver Wendell Holmes “Few delights can equal the mere presence of one whom we trust utterly.” - George MacDonald “Chop your own wood, and it will warm you twice.” - Henry Ford “Failure is not the crime, low aim is.” - John Wooden FORWARD THIS NEWSLETTER TO A FRIEND Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription. RE-ATTEND FOR HALF PRICE As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of my 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People have said they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. WORKSHOP "How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking" Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop October 26, 27, 28, 2011 I have two public seminars each year: Spring and Fall. Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company. If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar. Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details or call (888) 800-2001 or (626) 792-8075. Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116 Book "Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More" by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons $19.95. 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